Dear Destiny Friends,
One of life’s most misunderstood concepts is the relationship between process and failure. What appears to be failure may actually be part of the process required to achieve success. Failure often occurs when we neglect essential steps, lack the necessary skills, or attempt to achieve something before its appointed time.
A process involves structured steps, preparation, learning, and deliberate actions that lead to a desired outcome. Whether in business, education, career, or marriage, success requires going through the necessary stages. An entrepreneur must acquire relevant knowledge, skills, and mentorship before building a successful business. Similarly, students must study and prepare for examinations, employees must gain experience before advancing professionally, and couples must invest in marriage counseling and relationship education to build lasting marriages.
However, preparation is only one side of the equation; timing is equally important. Life operates in seasons, and everything has its appointed time. Planting corn outside the rainy season does not mean the seed is bad; it simply means the timing is wrong. Likewise, experiencing delays in securing employment or achieving personal goals does not necessarily mean one has failed.
On a personal note, I once struggled to understand the difference between failure and process. While I was thinking I had failed, my mentor, Dr. Yomi, advised me to exercise patience during a difficult period of unemployment. He explained that opportunities cannot be forced; when the right time comes, circumstances will align.
Sometimes, life’s challenges are opportunities for refinement, teaching us valuable lessons, building our capacity, and preparing us for greater responsibilities.
Ultimately, success requires preparation, patience, discipline, mentorship, and faith in divine timing. Rather than interpreting every setback as failure, we should recognize the lessons within the process and trust that our season will come. The goal is not merely to succeed, but to be adequately prepared when our opportunity arrives.
Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the founder of Gloemi. He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate, creative writer, and author of Design Your Destiny- Actualizing Your Birthright to Success, Unleash Your Destiny, and The Six Pillars of Success. He can be reached via info@gloemi.com
